Many of us look at our lives and realize that so many things seem to weigh us down. Unknown to us, we have become imprisoned by our choices and actions. Allow me to share a secret with you, the power to set yourself free lies within you, it’s called forgiveness.
Set yourself free
Forgiveness is defined as putting yourself at ease from another person’s wrongdoing. It is not a new concept however many people do not realize that it imprisons them. Resentment steals our creativity and robs us of our joy. It hinders our blessing and drives away favor. It makes it difficult to build relationships and may even lead to severe health challenges. Resentment is a terrible thing however we catch ourselves engaged in it from time to time, why ?
Forgiveness is not an easy thing to do ( it requires the grace of God ) so people prefer to take the easy route of resentment . Forgiveness requires that you take account of the hurt and still move ahead to let it go. People would look at you like a fool, the person you are forgiving may even consider you weak. However, forgiveness is not a sign of weakness but rather strength.
The concept of forgiveness requires a lot of strength and maturity. It is not easy to look at a man that jilted you and decided to just let him go. How many people in their right sense will see a person that stole from them and yet forgive him. It’s not easy to be kind to someone who didn’t show you kindness when he had an opportunity to show it. So yes, forgiveness is not easy.
People that forgive are actually setting themselves up to be blessed by God. In Matthew 6:12, it says forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. People don’t realize that when they do not forgive others they are actually places chains on themselves. Have you ever considered that sometimes when you hold a grudge against a person whenever you see he/she move around smiling, you begin to feel sad.
See what Proverbs 25: 21 – 22 says about it :
If thine enemy be hungry give him bread to eat
And if he be thirty, give him water to drink
For thou shall heap coals of fire upon him head,
And the Lord shall reward thee.
So you see, forgiveness is the best revenge.
If forgiveness is so good, why then do we sometimes find it difficult to forgive? The answer is simply our understanding . We feel very bad because we have attached so much importance to the offence rather that knowing that the offender is imperfect. When we are able to make excuses for people we would realize how easy it is to forgive a spouse that erred. If someone offends you, try to forgive them as quickly as possible because by so doing you are handing them over to God Almighty and above all you are setting yourself free.
Have you considered that when you focus on the offenses that someone commits against you, you are unable to see any good thing about the person. In some cases, you may develop a hatred to every of the person’s kind. You just find yourself hating all people from the North, or not trusting anybody from Ijebu Land. Because of your decision not to forgive you may have problems building a relationship because you just can’t trust ‘men’. Somehow, you realize you are unable to work with a team because you haven’t forgiven you last team members for what they did to you. Have you seen that the person suffering the most in all this is YOU. You need to set yourself free.
In conclusion, forgiveness is sometimes not an easy thing to do. A lot of times it would mean playing the fool. It would mean looking your offender in the face and begging yourself to let it go. If forgiveness was an easy thing to do there would be no wars, suicide bombing, reprisal killing etc. However, forgiveness is for those that realize they have a higher purpose. It is for those that know that God is the only one that can truly revenge. Forgiveness is for those that want to express true freedom. Make a list of those you need to forgive, send them an SMS or call or schedule a meeting. Start now – Set yourself free, Forgive.
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